
Originally Posted by
Sydney
Chatting to JK last night and i think she is getting a few pre- fight jitters.. she says this time she feels she will get sickhome...555 yes homesick ...she feels she doesn't want to leave her family and is sad.
I guess this normal when she knows this time she is coming for real and may not see her family for a couple of years. It got me thinking this would be my big concern in the relationship as she is very close to her family and how she will cope being separated from them.
I have seen 1st hand how homesickness can effect a female b4, both with my ex ( from UK ) and many of my old kiwi friends where the female of the relationship has ended up dragging the male ( much to the males horror) back to NZ. Over a 2 year period i lost 4 couple friends back to NZ manly to do with homesickness. And for 17 years it was always a re-occurring problem with my EX as she also was very close to her family.
I am now left wondering how this next homesick issue will pan out.
Something we will all deal with to varying degrees and no race colour or creed is immune.
Mrs W's first trip she was homesick took me a little to get it out of her. Did not help we had outside pressures to deal with also.
She drank a little too much I think to take the edge off, I know now and can see the signs easily.
Second trip to Oz no such problems at all.
I think that if our girls have good access to call family they feel as they would working in BKK and having family up country.
The more secure Mrs W has felt with me the less it has raised its head, well it does not at all now.
I think that you being a supportive partner making sure she has not to much time to dwell should eliminate most of these feelings