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    Hellos and Goodbyes

    One thing that really frustrates me with JK as her lack of Hellos and Goodbyes.

    Is this just a Thai thing ??

    She tells me her family never say Hi and Bye to each other.....if someone in her family goes out ( to work or shopping whatever) the only way you know teh person has left is to check the shoes outside...5555

    I am constantly having to remind her when my either of my kids arrive to say Hi or as they are leaving Bye...i mean how hard is it !! At first i thought it was just shyness and she is slowly getting the hang off it,but has a long way to go.

    Anyone else experience this ?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sydney View Post
    One thing that really frustrates me with JK as her lack of Hellos and Goodbyes.

    Is this just a Thai thing ??

    She tells me her family never say Hi and Bye to each other.....if someone in her family goes out ( to work or shopping whatever) the only way you know teh person has left is to check the shoes outside...5555

    I am constantly having to remind her when my either of my kids arrive to say Hi or as they are leaving Bye...i mean how hard is it !! At first i thought it was just shyness and she is slowly getting the hang off it,but has a long way to go.

    Anyone else experience this ?
    Yeah, in Thai style people feel funny when you say goodbye.Before I have farang hubby I also feel funny when my friend say goodbye to me and I ask them you not wont to come back and see again 555. Thai culture come or go only Sawat de kab, Sawat de kaa.
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    I think its a modern thing.
    years back you just didn't see people too often down on the farm so there was always a bit of catching up to do.

    Nowadays, too many people hardly bother to say anything to each other at the "Hello" and "Goodbye" point.
    By the time you are ready to leave, the last thing you want is someone wasting your time holding you up asking about things they couldn't be bothered to cover while you were there because they were fully taken up with twitter, skype, reading emails or facebook.

    "Hi mate...How are ya?" "Not too bad...You?" "Uhh... fair to middling"....................... "Ahhh...ok see ya then". "Yairr...see ya mate".
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    makes me think of a song... 555



    I must admit I haven't really noticed it when I am in Thailand... maybe it's the way I look at people... they dare not return my hello/goodbye... 555
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    Quote Originally Posted by Distantpeak View Post
    makes me think of a song... 555



    I must admit I haven't really noticed it when I am in Thailand... maybe it's the way I look at people... they dare not return my hello/goodbye... 555

    Hello DP

    I love the way the in video text tells you where to find the lyrics... How many complaints he must have got before he added that....555

    Goodbye DP
    Last edited by Changone; 15th October 2012 at 09:43. Reason: Forgot to say hello and goodbye
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    I've noticed this Sydney, particularly on Skype, where I chat with a couple of Thai ladies regularly. I will be chatting with one of them for an hour or more, and see the time is getting close to when I should be thinking about heading to bed, and I will say something like, "Almost time for me to go to bed." In the west, that would just let her know that I will be leaving soon, and we should "slowly" bring our conversation to a conclusion, say our long goodbyes, etc. Not so with either of my Thai friends, as the moment I mention an intention of leaving soon, it is immediately "Ok, goodnight! Have a good sleep and sweet dreams! Bye!" and boom, they are gone!!

    Also I read in some book ... was it "Private Dancer" perhaps? ... where the girl talks about how long it takes for farang just to say goodbye. I noticed this with Nui when I took her home to the Ban, that when we left, and even tho she would not be seeing her family for perhaps months, the goodbye's were remarkably quick. Saying goodbye to loved ones in Canada can literally take hours, but Nui said goodbye to her mom, dad, brother, children, nephew and niece in about 2 minutes.
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    I remember finding it hard at first in the village. There would be a group of family enjoying dinner then all of a sudden half had gone. No goodbyes just slip off the table, slip on their shoes and slip away into the night. Now I am used to it and actually quite like it but it gets be into trouble when I go back to Australia!
    Last edited by MeMock; 15th October 2012 at 15:59.
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    Yeah a Thai thing as explained by Mrs W.
    Suits me when i`m around the inlaws. Just jump in the car and come and go when it suits me...no formalities needed.

    Always give and are given a greeting and bye bye when first turn up and when going back home though.

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    Still find this quite strange, particularly when you go out of your way to do something for family when visiting. Western culture would be to mention how much you appreciated the help etc when saying goodbye, whereas the deed receives limited acknowledgement at the time and no goodbye at the end leaves you a bit uncertain about the whole relationship.
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    Something i hate with farangs.
    Quite often you have announced you are leaving which,in many people,seems to spark the need for a long story or conversation after being in others company for hours...what`s that about?? 555
    If i`m ready to go i`m heading for the door...see ya later,so i don`t mind the Thai style 55
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    Quote Originally Posted by Moo Uaon View Post
    Something i hate with farangs.
    Quite often you have announced you are leaving which,in many people,seems to spark the need for a long story or conversation after being in others company for hours...what`s that about?? 555
    If i`m ready to go i`m heading for the door...see ya later,so i don`t mind the Thai style 55
    Can relate to that for sure and i think i am even guilty of starting the convo on the odd occasion.............i just don't know why it happens that way, i am at a loss to explain........ and is annoying if you are the one trying to leave.

    So by the looks so far most are saying yes a Thai thing but more on the goodbye, a greeting however is ( and obviously should be) still used.....
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    Bai khun der Khup!..... Works a treat... Still not sure of the literal translation... P Chob?

    I picked it up off the wedding video I took in Isaan last year and it usually generates a smile .....

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    Yes have been chipped for chatting be it we are leaving, or farewelling others who are leaving. Also as VG says but only sometimes on Skype, if I say bedtime, get the farewell straight away other times can go on another hour.
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    Westerners love language seems mainly to be words of affirmation while Thais love language is doing good deeds. I love the Thai way much better.

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    Everybody now knows that each will say Hello and Goodbye (Sawadee is fine) at my baan.
    The 16 y.o. niece has to ask/tell me where she is going too.
    What's the point in learning English (essential for the better jobs IMHO) if they don't learn the common courtesies as well...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zablive View Post
    Everybody now knows that each will say Hello and Goodbye (Sawadee is fine) at my baan.
    The 16 y.o. niece has to ask/tell me where she is going too.
    What's the point in learning English (essential for the better jobs IMHO) if they don't learn the common courtesies as well...

    I think you got it Zabs, What is the point of us us sailing round the world tryng to teach the indigenous folk a better way (Down the barrell of a gunboat) if now we back off and allow some kind of dilution of the teachings...555
    Last edited by Changone; 15th October 2012 at 19:36.
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    Good night is uncommon also. Family just disappear or put their head down and fall asleep. Don't worry if the TV is still on loud enough for the whole neighbourhood to hear. 555
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nomad View Post
    Good night is uncommon also. Family just disappear or put their head down and fall asleep. Don't worry if the TV is still on loud enough for the whole neighbourhood to hear. 555
    We were at a neighbours out in Isaan who had a a decent modern farang style house with my girl and some others.

    I noticed the girl that owns it was no longer there and asked...where is she? to which i was replied....she go to Bangkok and we just lock up when we finish here!! i didn`t even see her walk out the door 555

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zablive View Post
    Everybody now knows that each will say Hello and Goodbye (Sawadee is fine) at my baan.
    The 16 y.o. niece has to ask/tell me where she is going too.
    What's the point in learning English (essential for the better jobs IMHO) if they don't learn the common courtesies as well...
    None of my inlaws speak English so no need for them to adjust anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeMock View Post
    None of my inlaws speak English so no need for them to adjust anything.
    They can greet and say goodbye in Thai ...

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