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    when I was about 48 I separated from my former wife (in AUS)..at that time I was coming to Thailand regularly to do business with a friend in Chiang Mai who is a couple of years younger than me...his wife is about 7-8 years younger...he used to make prototypes of my furniture designs and I would visit with him to get the finishes right before taking them to my euro manufacturers to go into production...

    They had a beautiful daughter "Joy" who was at Uni at that time in BKK and was about 22...I had already known her for a few years prior from when she was back at home with her parents...she used to pick me up at the airport and seemed to love taking me out and about in BKK..I paid of course but I don't think that is why she paid me so much attention...she seemed to have her aim set directly on me...when I told her that I had recently split with my wife she said to me..."Oh I am very sorry....sad for you but good for me"...it nearly floored me...but she really did mean it and went about proving it...

    we saw each other regularly for a couple of years before I came to live here and her parents were delighted...her elder sister was already married to a farang business man about 18 years her senior (but not as old as me 555) and i was always made to feel loved and a part of that family...in fact I still am

    Over time I was concerned that Joy was "waiting" for me at the expense of getting on with her life experiences and they were being curtailed, so I encouraged her to see other men and enjoy a full social life...she wasn't happy about it but she eventually met and fell in love with an AUSSIE guy much closer to her age not long after I moved here to live...funnily enough he lived very nearby to where my apartment is in Sydney..and a few years later she asked me to her wedding in AUS (I didn't attend..it just didn't seem right)

    I have had several other young TGs in their early to mid 20's "fall in love" (their words not mine) with me since living here...not bragging but just saying, sometimes it is the younger girl here who wil pick you..and make it their mission to marry you...of course its very flattering and intoxicating...but practicalities need to be kept in mind before you fall for them yourself..often its kind of a young girls "princess" wish here..to fall in love with an older farang man who will take care of all theirs (and maybe their families too) problems...and live happily ever after..a dangerous game for foolish players
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    ^ The vice versa has its own unique problems as well. I'm attracted to women older than myself. Maybe I have Freudian issues, not sure, but twice I've wormed my way out of relationships that could have been quite fruitful.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bacon View Post
    ^ The vice versa has its own unique problems as well. I'm attracted to women older than myself. Maybe I have Freudian issues, not sure, but twice I've wormed my way out of relationships that could have been quite fruitful.
    ..I had that problem a lot when I was about 16! ...55
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zablive View Post
    So did you teach the taut young woman or was she taught already? 555!
    Most have previous experience 556
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    My wife is 15 years younger than me, not a problem, were both as mad as a bucket of eels

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    Hi all get some good subjects on here ,i asked the girl this very question as i am 57 and she is 45 so around 12 years different depending on the time of year ,her answer was that they look at an older man as more secure /settled i think the biggest thing will be that we are both independent people so that will be something to work on ,what i mean is we both have been single for a while .I asked her what her family and friends thought about her marrying someone who was 12 years older and farang and they said fine and i think that someone else said you have to find someone on the same mindset as yourself .
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    I will be 59 in November, the wife will be 26 in two weeks. Seems about right to me 555
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    In a few years you'll start getting all the problems of old age. I was as fit as a flea untill I turned 63/64 then the problems started, the bones and muscles start to ache doing the simplest of things, you start getting up more often for a pee in the night (Not a prostate problem) but the prostate problems could start. the eyesight starts to get worse, the weight starts to pile on...........................
    If you can get through the next five years things seem to even out. Im 67 now and all the problems are starting to get a bit better, though klnow the end isnt far off now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gottsy View Post
    In a few years you'll start getting all the problems of old age. I was as fit as a flea untill I turned 63/64 then the problems started, the bones and muscles start to ache doing the simplest of things, you start getting up more often for a pee in the night (Not a prostate problem) but the prostate problems could start. the eyesight starts to get worse, the weight starts to pile on...........................
    If you can get through the next five years things seem to even out. Im 67 now and all the problems are starting to get a bit better, though klnow the end isnt far off now.
    That all started aged 30 for me... you were lucky it only started at 63!.. 55
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    Quote Originally Posted by Distantpeak View Post
    That all started aged 30 for me... you were lucky it only started at 63!.. 55
    Nice one. The good thing about being old is I get Cialis free on the National Health !!
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    Quote Originally Posted by 1080 View Post
    I will be 59 in November, the wife will be 26 in two weeks. Seems about right to me 555

    Im starting to think at 38 my wife is a bit of a old chook in this group....555

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sydney View Post
    Is this the grandest and oldest question on asian/ farang forums ? .55

    i remember running a survey on PI to garnish the average age gap .... many responded, from memory it was 13 years different, biggest difference was 30 years, smallest was + 4 years ....

    But data or stats means nothing, M26 is right, what works for one , is different another .. same for non-interracial same aged relationships .

    yes having same interests helps, but this is still possible even with a 20 yr age gap ...

    JK and i have 19 yrs apart, but she is way more responsible than me ..55 .. but it also works both ways

    Also if you are worried about what someone else is thinking, then thats more your then theirs

    We took that survey didn't we Sydney?

    Still 13.5 years between me and Mrs M. ... she turned 44 a couple of weeks ago ...

    I stopped noticing any funny looks a decade or more ago ... I'm a lucky man and I know it ... 555


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    Quote Originally Posted by Minder View Post
    We took that survey didn't we Sydney?

    Still 13.5 years between me and Mrs M. ..
    Yep you took it ...... but you are very average mate, very average ...555
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    Quote Originally Posted by Minder View Post
    We took that survey didn't we Sydney?

    Still 13.5 years between me and Mrs M. ... she turned 44 a couple of weeks ago ...

    I stopped noticing any funny looks a decade or more ago ... I'm a lucky man and I know it ... 555


    Why would you get funny looks?
    I'm not na´ve to not think some couples look odd together but I think you and your Mrs look like a good couple...........I wouldn't think twice on seeing you if didn't meet you guys
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gottsy View Post
    In a few years you'll start getting all the problems of old age. I was as fit as a flea untill I turned 63/64 then the problems started, the bones and muscles start to ache doing the simplest of things, you start getting up more often for a pee in the night (Not a prostate problem) but the prostate problems could start. the eyesight starts to get worse, the weight starts to pile on...........................
    If you can get through the next five years things seem to even out. Im 67 now and all the problems are starting to get a bit better, though klnow the end isnt far off now.
    that's a bit depressing , 67 you could have another 15/20 years to go ... we have a couple of BMs who are much older and should think about changing their boardgames to Methuselah and Jared
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    Quote Originally Posted by Stillearly View Post
    that's a bit depressing , 67 you could have another 15/20 years to go ... we have a couple of BMs who are much older and should think about changing their boardgames to Methuselah and Jared
    I guess it's called diagnosis and prognosis.. And yes, that can be very depressing..

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    What does it matter if BOTH of you are getting something out of a relationship... for how ever long it lasts? Some guys die in their forties, others are still going strong well into their eighties. There is no one size fits all situation.

    Me, I'm happy single, and don't miss being married one little bit... even though I enjoyed both my previous marriages. Frankly, I DON'T find older women that physically attractive, and bedding down with someone who is NOT attractive would be a bit of a turn off for me. But, I still enjoy the company of women of all ages... IF THEY ARE INTERESTING! I just don't want to go to bed with them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ian Forbes View Post
    Frankly, I DON'T find older women that physically attractive, and bedding down with someone who is NOT attractive would be a bit of a turn off for me.
    I had this issue when I was single a few years back, in fact became very fussy even if it was a ST girl in LOS and started going home along most nights.
    But I found my ex attractive not now but when we were together and she was in her early 40's when we split. Oldest girl I ever been with...55

    I put it down to this, When we meet a girl in the past we were much younger and that physical attraction was there, we grew together over the years and both got older. Now that we are older and single again we as men are still looking for the young attractive lady that we did when we were younger. Looking for that attractiveness. I had issues with my now wife at first thought I could find a more attractive one, not that she isn't attractive. Superficial sure I admit that but this played on my mine for a few years and now I'm over it.
    P4P with young sexy girls may have played a part in that thinking too but its a un real world.

    Glad I don't think that way anymore my wife ant getting any younger and I wouldnt let her go now for anything....55
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    Don't forget there are a lot of older women in their 60s, 70s and 80s that feel the same.. they are only attracted to men in their 20s and 30s... I may be wrong, but it' probably a lot harder for them to find someone that likes them back?
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    Quote Originally Posted by MarcTwoSix View Post
    Why would you get funny looks?
    I'm not na´ve to not think some couples look odd together but I think you and your Mrs look like a good couple...........I wouldn't think twice on seeing you if didn't meet you guys
    Amazing the difference a decade or so can make but Perth Western Australia circa 2000 to about 2005 and certainly any time preceding the recent Mining-Boom years - was not what anyone could call cosmopolitan - despite our proximity to Asia the most common foreign accents you overheard were British and those mostly from people who had lived here for generations ....

    Early years with Mrs M still attracted comments about "mail order brides", "having an Asian wife" and the old chestnut of "not being able to get a woman in his own country" ...not to your face but they were certainly there.

    I guess I should say that the "funny looks" stopped a decade or so ago when having an Asian partner became more common and I stopped being the only kid on the block who had taken up the latest craze ... 555
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