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    has anyone married a bar-girl ?

    how did it work out? personally i would think it would be a disaster, am i right or wrong?

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    I know several of those marriages that turned out very well, or at least no worse than regular relationships.

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    I was talking to one of the founding members of this forum the last night and the ethos of why this forum was launched. I met Gazmac about 5 years ago and it was at Christmas and it was my third time visiting Mtb since the previous June. Gazmac was one of the first guys to introduce himself to me and I got to know him better over a month long trip. He told me and my NZ mate about his experiences with Tane and how he knew she was the one. I had a mixture of emotions ranging from fair play to how stupid do you sound.

    I wasn’t a newbie nor was I a seasoned traveler. I still am not but I was encouraged by this obviously intelligent, genuine and down to eart guy. He messaged me about a year later and invited me to join this forum outlining that it is for guys who believe in BG love and haven’t been burned by it. I decided to ignore his request not because of him but because it sounded like a forum for guys who couldn’t see the wood from the trees. I wasn’t a prolific poster on Phuket info but as one of Nickes mates I had a loyalty issue and never jumped.

    When needaholiday did the mirror site after Nicke left, I gave a bit of advice. joined up on AI but never really joined. I liked and knew most of the guys but most of the threads were on American politics or others that simply didn’t interest me. I am glad I joined this and good craic.

    My point of this post is that I had a conversation with Gazmac and discussed that the forum has changed and is now a mixture of people that are lovelorn puppies who won’t take any advice and guys who can spot a hustle from soi San Sabai. I have been engaged with a tg and she will always be the love of my life even though she broke my heart. But yes I think it can work. If you are not a jealous type and set realistic expectations. Don’t think that a girl can stay faithful in Phuket or pattaya. Also don’t think sending them to the village with the equivalent of a doctors wages is the answer. Things take time. Love takes time. Don’t make excuses where you would in your country. Also, be nice. Girls aren’t possessions and because you give money does not mean that they are chattels.

    But Gazmac is one of the lucky ones. As a fisherman maybe he learned patience. I probably won’t end up with a BG but I do hope I end up with someone who makes me as happy as Tane makes him,

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    I married a former BG

    We have are issues now and may work or may not

    And those issues or any in our marriage have never been the result of her past.
    Zero

    Although I did know my wife for over 5 years before marrying her

    And it doesn't matter if the girl is a BG or not, if she is marrying for a better life, which most Thai women are when married to a farang, it will he pretty much the same dynamic
    Actually pretty much exactly the same .....

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    Im sure there are plenty of happy BG / Falang marriages ...... I just think it would be tiresome having to remember to put your Wallet and mobile phone in the safe every night 555

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    Eyes wide open as apposed to shut and a better than average understanding of what goes on.
    Why not we have A friend who is an ex BG Gaz knows her and she has been married happily for years so it works.
    Her job does not define her but her Thainess does and that might be more of a stumbling block.55555
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    Quote Originally Posted by wabbits View Post
    Eyes wide open as apposed to shut and a better than average understanding of what goes on.
    Why not we have A friend who is an ex BG Gaz knows her and she has been married happily for years so it works.
    Her job does not define her but her Thainess does and that might be more of a stumbling block.55555
    I agree 1000%

    Oh and she may say my Americanness might be a stumbling block 55555
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    The biggest gold digger I ever met was a Thai Lawyer...man she was like a shark..lt only lasted a few dates...she was out for the marriage and house in the suburbs from the get go...and made it plainly obvious...

    as others have said..it largely depends on the nature of the gal to start with...the work does not necessarily define the woman..unlesss she was that way inclined from the get go....I mean this in the majority of cases..of course working bar and P4P can definitely scar a gal psychologicaly
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    Fortunately, I'm not a jealous person, but some people are. My first wife was not a jealous person, but my second wife certainly was. And, I never gave them any reason to be jealous. I never played around even though I had ample chances to do so. I also never "hit" on any other woman who was in a relationship with another man... married or otherwise. I never wanted to be the one that caused a breakup.

    I agree with much of what Notorius said, and I certainly agree with Bacwaan... It all depends on the person... or the people involved.

    I've mentioned it before, but years ago when I was at university I met a pretty gal who I was sweet on. But, she made it quite plain about who she wanted to marry. It had to be a doctor, an airline pilot or a lawyer. Or, a least someone with a lot of money. Was she a "gold digger"? I don't think so. She just had her priorities in order. And, as I was never going to be any of the above, I knew that I was nothing more than an escort to the prom she wanted to attend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bacwaan View Post
    The biggest gold digger I ever met was a Thai Lawyer...man she was like a shark..lt only lasted a few dates...she was out for the marriage and house in the suburbs from the get go...and made it plainly obvious...

    as others have said..it largely depends on the nature of the gal to start with...the work does not necessarily define the woman..unlesss she was that way inclined from the get go....I mean this in the majority of cases..of course working bar and P4P can definitely scar a gal psychologicaly
    Not can, but will..
    To make a decision to "work bar", requires abandoning certain values and in the Thai concept going from being a 'good girl' to being a 'bad girl'...
    This will, without exception, change their self-image, though some will deal with this far easier and better than others..
    But they all know they have given up on the Thai marriage market, and will not be seen as a person by Thai males, just as fuck-flesh..
    And they know the can only generate face by providing.. for their customers, their families, etc.

    The longer they do this, the hardened they get, and the more the 'sex equals money' mentality sets in...
    Only logic, and no fault of their own, but it takes a long time to readjust to the concept that sex can be associated with love, and is not associated with money..
    Again, some adapt more quickly than others..

    But regardless, the mechanism in thinking is always there...
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    I have and yes it can work !
    As Notorious said I may be one of the lucky ones , but truth is , she could not wait to get out of the bar scene ! She hated it !
    She went from there to working in the butchers section of Big C in Patong and was never happier ! Always had a smile on her face and health improved from not drunk every night . A way happier girl !
    I think that may be part of the reason it worked as in she was ready to get out of that industry.
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    thanks for the replys lads --i met you years ago marc when u were "marc26 " and met nicklaus--even went to a barbie at his place--lovely fella
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    Quote Originally Posted by oldfella View Post
    thanks for the replys lads --i met you years ago marc when u were "marc26 " and met nicklaus--even went to a barbie at his place--lovely fella
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    i remember sitting by you marc 26 in a bar with ur lady
    you pointed out a fella that according to u was "looking at your gal" and you were going to "punch his godam lights out"
    i don't mean to be rude ,it's just thing's i remember
    i liked the fella that maintained computers
    what about the crazy b/g that tried to knife tother@the mai tai
    then some fella proposed to her on one knee? i was sat next to this debacle --she actually slapped him around his head at the time yet he actually married the nutter-- went off to sweden or someplace--------------------------------------------------
    it's never actually been explained how nicklaus was killed has it?
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    Quote Originally Posted by oldfella View Post
    it's never actually been explained how nicklaus was killed has it?
    Motorcycle accident (DUI)
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    Poor old Nicke was on a downward spiral.
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    I don’t think an open forum is the place to discuss something like that especially seeing how close so many people were to him.

    But going back to the original question, there is obviously a lot of guys here who have met their partners who were ex bgs. I have had a slightly different experience. I had been in Thailand about 30 times and then I met a girl. It was a strange one. She was a stunner and looked like a bond femme fatale. I stayed with her for about 18 months even though I knew she had a bf. She contacted me recently and he fcuked her over and she is working in a factory. She is full of regret that she chose him and said she still has feelings for me. Of course I don’t believe it, I believe she regrets the life she could have had.

    If there is such a thing as love at first sight then I had it. I remember turning around and seeing a girl and all I saw was a smile, teeth, the most beautiful eyes and my heart being ripped in to. This girl has had the biggest impact on my life in a good and bad way. I don’t want to go into it but she has made me feel pure love and absolute hurt in equal measure. She is the reason that I doubt I will ever end up with someone. I have said before I have been engaged with two Irish girls and I thought I loved them. Absolutely nothing compared to this. We were engaged which ended up the worst finish ever, coupled with the fact that I had to put my dog (my child) down 2 days later.

    So, I know guys here have married bgs and I am delighted for the,. Gazmac is one of the guys that truly meta good one. But I met one that still has a big impact on my life in that we speak a lot, but is also a girl that has crushed me. And to tell you the truth, some one asked me do I wish I hadn’t met her? I would love if I wasn’t hurt as much. At the same time I thought my two fiancÚs previously made me happy and I loved them. But after her, I actually know it was no where near love. I hope I meet someone who makes me feel the same. Take some explaining seeing as I have her name tattooed. 5555
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    Quote Originally Posted by Notorius View Post
    I don’t think an open forum is the place to discuss something like that especially seeing how close so many people were to him.

    But going back to the original question, there is obviously a lot of guys here who have met their partners who were ex bgs. I have had a slightly different experience. I had been in Thailand about 30 times and then I met a girl. It was a strange one. She was a stunner and looked like a bond femme fatale. I stayed with her for about 18 months even though I knew she had a bf. She contacted me recently and he fcuked her over and she is working in a factory. She is full of regret that she chose him and said she still has feelings for me. Of course I don’t believe it, I believe she regrets the life she could have had.

    If there is such a thing as love at first sight then I had it. I remember turning around and seeing a girl and all I saw was a smile, teeth, the most beautiful eyes and my heart being ripped in to. This girl has had the biggest impact on my life in a good and bad way. I don’t want to go into it but she has made me feel pure love and absolute hurt in equal measure. She is the reason that I doubt I will ever end up with someone. I have said before I have been engaged with two Irish girls and I thought I loved them. Absolutely nothing compared to this. We were engaged which ended up the worst finish ever, coupled with the fact that I had to put my dog (my child) down 2 days later.

    So, I know guys here have married bgs and I am delighted for the,. Gazmac is one of the guys that truly meta good one. But I met one that still has a big impact on my life in that we speak a lot, but is also a girl that has crushed me. And to tell you the truth, some one asked me do I wish I hadn’t met her? I would love if I wasn’t hurt as much. At the same time I thought my two fiancÚs previously made me happy and I loved them. But after her, I actually know it was no where near love. I hope I meet someone who makes me feel the same. Take some explaining seeing as I have her name tattooed. 5555
    So that was the tattoo you spoke about ?. Nice story that mate and I know how you feel.

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