Another mouth to feed

Dupree

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On another note, how will the MIL go if the mother comes back in say 5 years to collect the kid? How will you and Ao go?

That would be hard I would imagine.

Has she had to do this before.
Put in 5 yrs of love and care. Then the mother comes back and says. Thank you. Bye. If you really want the kid take legal custody. Adoption.
 

MarcTwoSix

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Put in 5 yrs of love and care. Then the mother comes back and says. Thank you. Bye. If you really want the kid take legal custody. Adoption.
Well it is her granddaughter
Not like some random kid you will never see again

It's been 2 days, I mean the Mom has been gone for 2-3 months

But she's young, early 20's
As a family you help out and hope it works out

Adoption isn't that easy in Thailand, actually
You think it would be

If the mom was gone for good tomorrow, it would still take years to adopt her and bring her to Canada
Which I would happily do....
But it's a big process
 

Dupree

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Well it is her granddaughter
Not like some random kid you will never see again

It's been 2 days, I mean the Mom has been gone for 2-3 months

But she's young, early 20's
As a family you help out and hope it works out

Adoption isn't that easy in Thailand, actually
You think it would be

If the mom was gone for good tomorrow, it would still take years to adopt her and bring her to Canada
Which I would happily do....
But it's a big process
This is Ao's brother's kid. Why can't he get full custody?
 

MarcTwoSix

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This is Ao's brother's kid. Why can't he get full custody?
The other grandmother says he's been helping with money.

But he's a Thai guy that makes 15-20k/mo(if that) and works 6/7 days per week

Not like he's some accountant that can grab his kids and rent a 3bdrm and be a stay at home Dad
 

Dupree

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The other grandmother says he's been helping with money.

But he's a Thai guy that makes 15-20k/mo(if that) and works 6/7 days per week

Not like he's some accountant that can grab his kids and rent a 3bdrm and be a stay at home Dad
He can give custody to Ao. It can't be hard to prove the mother abandoned her.
 

MarcTwoSix

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He can give custody to Ao. It can't be hard to prove the mother abandoned her.
It's been 2 months
Will give it some time

I actually did some reading and if your goal is to do that and bring them to a Western country, the Western countries can be critical of that type of adoption
Because they look at is as sort of an economic go-around

Although I wouldn't be surprised if Canada is more lenient with that scenario
 

OZZYGUY

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Angelina Jolie didn't seam to have a issue...............its a mine field from what I understand.

We have a American lady friend that wanted to adopt a very young Filipina girl, street kid with no parents..... never happened and the kid is still in a orphanage.
 

Bacon

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Plenty of orphans to adopt in every country. I think sometimes its arrogance with wanting an import.
 

Tingtong

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Plenty of orphans to adopt in every country. I think sometimes its arrogance with wanting an import.
True ... You never hear About a Australian Couple Talking About how they Adopted a Aboriginal Child , but they will Brag about the Child they Got from Africa like its some sort of trophy .
 

bacwaan

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True ... You never hear About a Australian Couple Talking About how they Adopted a Aboriginal Child , but they will Brag about the Child they Got from Africa like its some sort of trophy .

Possibly because they don't want people to think they were participants in taking advantage of "The Stolen Generation"...

My single 32yo niece has "adopted" 3 different aboriginal children (via the QLD Fostering system) for periods of up to 6 years..she currently has a beautiful 12yo girl in care but has seen 2 boys through from 8 until early teens...
 
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MarcTwoSix

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Plenty of orphans to adopt in every country. I think sometimes its arrogance with wanting an import.
Ha
Only an Aussie could call people who are adopting a child arrogant
You guys really are a special kind of miserable fucks 5555

But I believe it was a lot easier to adopt abroad than domestically
I know 2 couples in Canada that adopted in the US and Canada
And it took them forever to be approved and then waiting to get the call
 

MarcTwoSix

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We been laughing at my MIL

Well before this I always say she'd make a good prison warden 555

Already she has:
Told Fy she eats too slow
Complained that her white and black shoes look the same color(they won't tomorrow)
Complained if she cleans her backpack it will be kaput because too old and dirty 1611836682902.jpg1611836619519.jpg

The funniest was Ao was taking Fy to buy stuff for school
They got to the door and my MIL was dressed and ready to go(without being asked) so she could monitor what was being bought

MIL lost that battle 😀
 

PeteGill

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Ha
Only an Aussie could call people who are adopting a child arrogant
You guys really are a special kind of miserable fucks 5555

But I believe it was a lot easier to adopt abroad than domestically
I know 2 couples in Canada that adopted in the US and Canada
And it took them forever to be approved and then waiting to get the call
Pretty much what it boils down to, supply and demand. Got zero to do with fashion trend or being arrogant.
 

MarcTwoSix

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Ao had to bring Fy to school yesterday to drop off her homework
She goes in-class every other day

Was met with a bill 5555

But the big thing that struck me is she notified the teachers that she will now be taking care of Fy
No official paperwork, just her phone # filed to school
No way they allow that in Canada/US

Also her grandfather(the Mom's dad) asked if he could pick her up and bring her to school every day
I thought that was so cute

Nice looking school from pics 1611931501634.jpg1611931509243.jpg
 

MarcTwoSix

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A couple notes on school and expenses
If anyone's interested

Fy goes to school in person 1 day and home doing homework the next day
I don't think that's efficient, doesn't allow any rhythm in the learning, IMO
I would think at least 2 days in-person then off to do the homework on those lessons would be better.....

The expenses
There were so many little expenses and things she needed that we had to make up
It really does underscore how much of a struggle it is for some when they have to pay 200 here, 300 here
And believe me, I've been on that end, so no judgement about that. They pay what's most important and get by with the rest.....

One other thing is Ao has to help her with her homework
But she had to learn some of it herself
Fy is learning Mandarin.
Ao said she had to go on YouTube to learn a bit "like I stay school " 5555
 

OZZYGUY

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A bunch of questions.....55

How long to she goes full time.

At what age in Thailand do the kids start school.

Do they teach them English from pre primary.

Does Ao take her cooked lunch at lunch time.
 

MarcTwoSix

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A bunch of questions.....55

How long to she goes full time.

At what age in Thailand do the kids start school.

Do they teach them English from pre primary.

Does Ao take her cooked lunch at lunch time.
She is alternating because of covid, not her age.
To reduce the # of kids in the classroom.

Kids in Thailand start school very early
I want to say part time at 3yrs old and full time at 4yrs old

And yes, they are taught English right from the start these days.
I would imagine the Mandarin is very basic

Fy gets 50baht each day to buy lunch/juice/snacks
 

OZZYGUY

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She is alternating because of covid, not her age.
To reduce the # of kids in the classroom.

Kids in Thailand start school very early
I want to say part time at 3yrs old and full time at 4yrs old

And yes, they are taught English right from the start these days.
I would imagine the Mandarin is very basic

Fy gets 50baht each day to buy lunch/juice/snacks
Much the same as Phils, wifes kids started at that age, But they don't do Mandarin although I think Mandarin is good to learn especially if you live in Asia.
 
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