I dont get the feeling he is being used by the family. As he say, he spend most of the electricity himself, and they take care of things around him, so its a win/win for him. Babysitting, cooking, cleaning, laundry, things you do when living that close... Must be well worth it...
Same as when we are in the village. I take water, electricity and other small things.
I wasn't saying he's being used
I just think, from my partial experiences, that him taking care of the whole family changes the dynamics of the relationships.
Like I said, I hate being fussed over when I go to the village
I appreciate their effort and thought into it, I just don't like it
I just want to be treated as one of them
And if you are supporting the whole family, I just don't see how you could be
It's a big culture thing also
My wife would look at her mom in her early 50's and say she is old and tired
Where as I think that is still young and should be out working