I honestly don't understand how people can ever do something they 100% don't wantChob;225674 said:I just lost a long post on this because my PC rebooted , with all the justifications in it for my thinking but -
Its gonna sound harsh being much briefer , but in short , you CAN give a "no" response - simply because you dont want to invest your money in something
And because its up to you
From now over 7 years of living here Ive watched the Thais , and its only those with money who outrightly say , "Ummm , No!"
Sure they drop 5k on a banquet for everyone and make big face ( and Ive done the same without any of the accolades and promises of obligations , probably just as you have ) ,but they say "no" and walk away
The difference is that while we are supposed to cringe to say "no" , thinking that its somehow un-Thai , the big boys here really only say "yes" if security is offered up
A loan of 100k on a block worth 1 million for example
They say ''no" all the time
Its only family that really pressures each other into saying ''yes'
But you show authority by saying "no" yourself
Just say "no" because you want to
They already "Know" you have big money so its your perogative
Occasionally tell your woman "No , and its up to me"
You may get some silence , but in the long term its cementing your place here
( And Ive heard of many banks- or worse mafia money lenders - remortgaging places without the farangs ok over here ,,, theres great money to be made and the Falang, with the gambler tg , for example , has little recourse, usually any way )
I have said no way more times than I have said yes.
I don't mind explaining to my wife my reasoning but after that i feel absolutely zero obligation to do anything i don't want to
Latest and biggest example i have said on here before
Her stupid brother got arrested again and was facing 3 years in prison
I could have paud 150k baht and got him out and honestly i could easily get that money out of the bank tomorrow
But he screwed over his other brother by getting arrested and there was no way I was supporting that
In the end I think both my wife and MIL understand
And believe me......guys buying houses and doing all this so early in their relationships don't get respect......they actually lose the Thai family's respect.......because no Thai would do it at such an early stage