So you found a girl?

[nutasor]

There is many ways to look at this.. Just a few points:

In a way, a job is a job.. And for various reasons a partner can have a problem with the work you do.. bartending, massage, dancing, acting, modeling.. can be too close or intimate with other people.. Police officer, diver, millitary, fire fighter, etc., can be too dangerous.. Domestic work, gardening, garbage collector, etc. can be jobs that are looked down upon..
But in the end of the day, it is a job.. and it pays the bills.. Would you have your partner disputing your work? especially when she did not before?

Second is the difference in culture.. We claim a 100% connection between love and making love.. Thais don't!
But do we? I know plenty of falang lady's that use their looks or sexuallity for personal and economic gain, in one way or another... And so do we all.. We simply choose not to see or comment on that..
which is about the same as Thai's do..555

Working girls are frowned upon, both in the west and in Thailand.. But in Thailand the frowning tends to stop when it pays the bills... A 50k bath income is very respecatble, regardless what the job entails.. But also this is not all too different in the west..

In both your stories (Nubbins and Zane) You seem to have been happy with the fact that your TG was working when you were not there.. I don't want to speculate about the reasons for this, but Zane states his own sexual behaviour is at least part of the reason..
So, you have been in a relation with a working girl, where everything was "uptoyou", because you were the paying customer.. And now you come to a level, where you wnat the relationship to progress to the level of a partner.. Which is good, no problem with that.. But, do not think this is just your call to make..! because when you think in the line of "now you have to stop work, because I am sponsoring you.." the relationship you start is about to fail.. Cause you will b etreating your girlfriend as a working girl, you calling the shots, because you are paying..

Just my 2 satang.. Hope it all works out for the best..

Very well written and balanced piece. Good insight and should be on the fine print on every admission ticket.

 

[OZZYGUY]

I have been traveling to LOS for over 10 years mainly short stopovers in BBK and had a only see a girl for one night pollicy so they didnt get in my head.

A few years ago on a holiday in LOS I met a BG that I really conected with. Every trip since then I have spent with her. She now has a sponsor and not working however we skpe and keep in contact. For some reason we just cannot let go. She has never asked for money when I am not with her and we get on really well and talk about anything. She is 34 and I am 46. She is not the best looking girl in the bar but pushes all my buttons. Also not ugly. I have met the family and like others from a farm and not educated.

I dont like the idea of seeing someones girl so I will not see her while she has a sponsor. She dosnt like the sponsor but he supports her and the family and she is not working so she does as she is told.

The thing is I have met a 36 year old Catholic Indo girl in Perth (she looks 28). She has been in Perth since 1988 and came on a business visa with her perants, She is hot as hell size 6 minx, no tattoos, has money and lots of it, speaks better english than me. Well educated and a great job. Good arm candy. However my indo is very shy and a bit boring. She also dont like my loud drunken falang friends. And her family treats her like a 16 year old kid. She is not allowed to stay at my place until married but of coarse she does. The boom boom is really good now she has been trained and she wants it more than me. Now thats a first for me. I realy like the girl so do my family. Im trying to make it work but just dont know if she is for me. She is hoplessly in love with me and talking marrige. I have only been with her for 3 months. I am her first western guy.

But I keep thinking of the thai girl and how much fun we have.

I really dont know what to do, Im thinking of ditching the Indo girl and steeling some poor sponsors girl.

Dont know why im disciussing this with you lot just needed to vent I suppose.

 

[Zablive]

Like that song says- " While you're out looking for sugar, someone's gonna take your honey and be gone " ...

 

[RakThai]

Hmm.. Sounds like the rational approach and the emotional approach lead to different conclusions...
What to trust?

 

[OZZYGUY]

Hmm.. Sounds like the rational approach and the emotional approach lead to different conclusions...
What to trust?

Yes and one is in Perth and one in LOS

 

[RakThai]

Yes and one is in Perth and one in LOS

Where is your future? Early retirement in LOS? Or raise a family in Perth?
It comes down to your plans for your future, which has little to do with either one of these girls..

 

[Zablive]

OG - what does her family think of you?

Have you a high paying job with status(face) in their eyes.

Never underestimate the family ties of an Asian girl ( even if she has been willful and snuck off for a bit of nooky at your place).

 

[Quarky]

But I keep thinking of the thai girl and how much fun we have.

I really dont know what to do, Im thinking of ditching the Indo girl and steeling some poor sponsors girl.

Dont know why im disciussing this with you lot just needed to vent I suppose.

Nothing complicated... your answer is in bold. The Perth girl is definitely not for you.... or you wouldn't be thinking of someone else...

The Bangkok girl may possibly be the girl... but likely not too or she already would be...

I'm all or nothing... no inbetweens, so best not to listen to me... but I still believe in the "one". No compromises... or your life becomes a series of compromises...

 

[OZZYGUY]

OG - what does her family think of you?

Have you a high paying job with status(face) in their eyes.

Never underestimate the family ties of an Asian girl ( even if she has been willful and snuck off for a bit of nooky at your place).

The family are very worried. Im the only westerner in the family. However I am not allowed to meet the Mother (she is the big boss and oldest) because I still dont have my divorce from my last wife. In mothers eyes im still married. I do have a good income and I own a few business and several comercial property's.

Rakthai I dont have plans ATM to retire in LOS however have thought of it. I dont want any more kids and nor does she. Both girl.

 

[daohoshi Dao]

The family are very worried. Im the only westerner in the family. However I am not allowed to meet the Mother (she is the big boss and oldest) because I still dont have my divorce from my last wife. In mothers eyes im still married. I do have a good income and I own a few business and several comercial property's.

Rakthai I dont have plans ATM to retire in LOS however have thought of it. I dont want any more kids and nor does she. Both girl.

BG's keep contact for insurance policy! Or if she really stop work some keep contact because boring life now no the party life. You know hansom man... some the girl like to be desired all the time too. Get that feeling to from contact you talk about good time together. "Oh good time together. I like you you.... see I never ask for money" You special for me.55555555555555555555 You see I laugh a lot.

Only time long and actions be the truth.


If she go with you. Why she not do again for better offer after you?

 

[OZZYGUY]

BG's keep contact for insurance policy! Or if she really stop work some keep contact because boring life now no the party life. You know hansom man... some the girl like to be desired all the time too. Get that feeling to from contact you talk about good time together. "Oh good time together. I like you you.... see I never ask for money" You special for me.55555555555555555555 You see I laugh a lot.

Only time long and actions be the truth.


If she go with you. Why she not do again for better offer after you?

Good point.

I have not seen her for over a year. I was going to see her in August and meeting up away from her friends so her sponsor would not find out. A few weeks after we planed it she said she could not meet me. She said she bad lady to see me because she have BF.
But now she wants to see me. Maybe sponsor is not paying.

 

[RakThai]

Other thing to consider is that you only met the Thai girl in a holiday setting, so your memories of her are always mixed with the holiday memories..

 

[OZZYGUY]

I have spent a total of 7 weeks with her over 3 trips. Yes I get the holiday setting thing. I feel like one of the newbies that fall for the first TG they find. 555

I'm going to give the Indo a bit more time see if she comes out at all. The other thing is indo has a 11 year old son the same age as mine and they get on well.

 

[jontymate]

Nothing complicated... your answer is in bold. The Perth girl is definitely not for you.... or you wouldn't be thinking of someone else...

The Bangkok girl may possibly be the girl... but likely not too or she already would be...

I'm all or nothing... no inbetweens, so best not to listen to me... but I still believe in the "one". No compromises... or your life becomes a series of compromises...

Ozzy

I must say I needed a few years to be free from the past, void of anything (relationship wise) and to make consummately sure. Not only for I, but the for girl and my self worth for being with or needing / wanting a partner. Note!!! For the sake of self satisfaction short term. Long story but I married my interpreter. For girls I was other wise interested in.

 

[MarcTwoSix]

Good point.

I have not seen her for over a year. I was going to see her in August and meeting up away from her friends so her sponsor would not find out. A few weeks after we planed it she said she could not meet me. She said she bad lady to see me because she have BF.
But now she wants to see me. Maybe sponsor is not paying.

now, some people will say these girls need to do what they have to support their family
but they don't
there is millions of thais that get by without conning some farang to give them money when they don't have feelings for the guy
so i would move on from the thai girl, she has shown her true colors already

but, i wouldn't force it with the Indo girl either if you aren't feeling it
as for her family, i think their actions are just, their daughter is getting involved with a man not yet divorced
a family that protects their daugther like that can turn into a great family for you once all settled

 

[Dupree]

The boom boom is really good now she has been trained and she wants it more than me. Now thats a first for me. I realy like the girl so do my family. Im trying to make it work but just dont know if she is for me. She is hoplessly in love with me and talking marrige. I have only been with her for 3 months. I am her first western guy

Being a horny bugger myself. This portion of your post stood out. She's hot and a newbie. You can get her to do all kinds of fantasy bedroom antics if you practice patience and tenderness. Just because your attraction to her is not as intense as hers for you it is not a bad thing. You can have control. This may not be a Romeo & Juliet epic love. But it looks pretty damn good to someone looking in. She's got cash. A family that you don't need to support. You both have sons the same age. Man you could never find this if you tried. You're in your late 40s and your looks, if any, will wane in 10 years.

 

[RakThai]

Being a horny bugger myself. This portion of your post stood out. She's hot and a newbie. You can get her to do all kinds of fantasy bedroom antics if you practice patience and tenderness. Just because your attraction to her is not as intense as hers for you it is not a bad thing. You can have control. This may not be a Romeo & Juliet epic love. But it looks pretty damn good to someone looking in. She's got cash. A family that you don't need to support. You both have sons the same age. Man you could never find this if you tried. You're in your late 40s and your looks, if any, will wane in 10 years.

Love this post! 555
Not that I agree.. But sometimes I wish I could match love and practicality like this...

Next week I have a meeting with the old owners daughter.. She is about my age and now the new managing director..
Have known her for years and I know she likes me...

Meeting next week is probably about kicking me out (the rumors indicate this)...
Now I could get all flattering and personal, knowing her family is worth about 500 million...
In a way, I wish I could.... But I will be street-fighting if I know myself a bit...555

 

[Quarky]

Meeting next week is probably about kicking me out (the rumors indicate this)...
Now I could get all flattering and personal, knowing her family is worth about 500 million...
In a way, I wish I could.... But I will be street-fighting if I know myself a bit...555

Well either you don't care if you lose your job... and then I say well done on sticking to your principles... or, you are not very smart at looking after yourself... 555

 

[YankeeDK]

I have been traveling to LOS for over 10 years mainly short stopovers in BBK and had a only see a girl for one night pollicy so they didnt get in my head.

A few years ago on a holiday in LOS I met a BG that I really conected with. Every trip since then I have spent with her. She now has a sponsor and not working however we skpe and keep in contact. For some reason we just cannot let go. She has never asked for money when I am not with her and we get on really well and talk about anything. She is 34 and I am 46. She is not the best looking girl in the bar but pushes all my buttons. Also not ugly. I have met the family and like others from a farm and not educated.

I dont like the idea of seeing someones girl so I will not see her while she has a sponsor. She dosnt like the sponsor but he supports her and the family and she is not working so she does as she is told.

The thing is I have met a 36 year old Catholic Indo girl in Perth (she looks 28). She has been in Perth since 1988 and came on a business visa with her perants, She is hot as hell size 6 minx, no tattoos, has money and lots of it, speaks better english than me. Well educated and a great job. Good arm candy. However my indo is very shy and a bit boring. She also dont like my loud drunken falang friends. And her family treats her like a 16 year old kid. She is not allowed to stay at my place until married but of coarse she does. The boom boom is really good now she has been trained and she wants it more than me. Now thats a first for me. I realy like the girl so do my family. Im trying to make it work but just dont know if she is for me. She is hoplessly in love with me and talking marrige. I have only been with her for 3 months. I am her first western guy.

But I keep thinking of the thai girl and how much fun we have.

I really dont know what to do, Im thinking of ditching the Indo girl and steeling some poor sponsors girl.

Dont know why im disciussing this with you lot just needed to vent I suppose.

Remember the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. I think there is a real possibility that you will regret chasing the TG. Obviously I don't know all the details but to me, you seem to already be well off. Be careful not to ruin that!

Being a horny bugger myself. This portion of your post stood out. She's hot and a newbie. You can get her to do all kinds of fantasy bedroom antics if you practice patience and tenderness. Just because your attraction to her is not as intense as hers for you it is not a bad thing. You can have control. This may not be a Romeo & Juliet epic love. But it looks pretty damn good to someone looking in. She's got cash. A family that you don't need to support. You both have sons the same age. Man you could never find this if you tried. You're in your late 40s and your looks, if any, will wane in 10 years.

I like your pragmatic view. I have discovered the same with a girl I've met.

 

[Arliss Michaels]

now, some people will say these girls need to do what they have to support their family
but they don't
there is millions of thais that get by without conning some farang to give them money when they don't have feelings for the guy
so i would move on from the thai girl, she has shown her true colors already

but, i wouldn't force it with the Indo girl either if you aren't feeling it
as for her family, i think their actions are just, their daughter is getting involved with a man not yet divorced
a family that protects their daugther like that can turn into a great family for you once all settled

Totally 100% agree with the "bolded"